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I got asked the question, “Hey Ryan, what are some good conversation starters I should use?”

A conversation starter is a great way to get to know someone. Whether you choose to ask them deep conversation starters (ideal for couples or those who want a meaningful connection) or funny conversation starters (perfect for finding new friends), it’s all about getting introduced to someone. Try some of these small talk questions to get to know someone.

A question you can ask to get to know someone!
Conversation starter question

My own experience with conversation starters…

Well, here’s the harsh truth… I wasn’t the coolest kid growing up. I had a difficult time connecting with others. I don’t know if it was because I was shy. Or I just didn’t feel like everyone else… Very unclear.

But here’s what did help me… breaking out of my shell a bit. The more I did it, the more I learned about myself and the others around me. Questions like these can help! Trust me!

Here are my best tips before you go asking questions:

  • Tailor your questions – Sounds simple… Tailor the question you are going to ask based on the person you are asking it to. Doesn’t matter if it’s a friend, crush, guy, girl, Bumble/Tinder match. Look at who they are.
  • Be yourself – Pick a question that matches you. Don’t just choose any question to try and please the other person. Be yourself… This is what works long-term! Why? Well, when they like you, it’ll be for YOU!

Best conversation starters

  1. Have we met before?
  2. What was the best compliment of your life?
  3. What’s the best quality you like about yourself?
  4. What kind of people do you like?
  5. What’s your favorite music genre?
  6. What do you prefer doing on weekends?
  7. What personality trait of yours is your favorite?
  8. Do you like dogs?
  9. Do you have any pets?
  10. Which school did you go to?
  11. What’s your favorite movie?
  12. Who is your favorite action hero?
  13. What do you notice first in people?
  14. What’s your current job?
  15. What’s one interesting thing about you I should know?
  16. Do you follow pop culture?
  17. Who is your favorite comedian?
  18. What’s the worst first date you’ve ever been on?
  19. Are you a dog person or a cat person?
  20. What’s your favorite guilty pleasure TV show?
  21. What is the last movie that you watched?
  22. Do you go to any networking events?
  23. What’s your favorite food to eat?
  24. If you were on any reality TV show, which would it be?
  25. What was your most embarrassing moment as a child?
  26. What’s your favorite celebrity scandal?
  27. Do you have a favorite restaurant?
  28. What’s your favorite sports team?
  29. What controversial opinion do you have that others don’t share?
  30. Do you have an annoying habit you want to break?
  31. What did you do this past weekend?
  32. What’s a secret talent that you have?
  33. What’s your favorite movie soundtrack?
  34. What do you do in your free time?
  35. Are you a jealous person?
  36. What’s your favorite holiday?
  37. What three words best describe you?
  38. How many family members do you have?
  39. What would be your theme song?
  40. Are you a night owl or morning person?
  41. What’s your favorite season?
  42. What’s your favorite song?
  43. What’s your favorite TV show of all time?
  44. What’s the strangest dream you’ve ever had?
  45. Who was your favorite teacher?
  46. Do you make friends easily?
  47. Do you consider yourself social?
  48. Does talking with others come to you naturally?
  49. Are you a tea or coffee drinker?
  50. Do you like sports?
  51. Would you like to alter anything about your appearance?
  52. What kind of music do you like?
  53. Do you play any musical instruments?
  54. Do you enjoy cooking?
  55. What are your plans for later?
  56. What’s your sun sign?
  57. Have you been to this restaurant before?
  58. Which part of the country is your favorite?
  59. How do you like to spend your vacation?
  60. Are you familiar with this place?
  61. I am new here. Can you give me a tour of this place?
  62. Are you reading any books right now?
  63. Do you have a favorite author?
  64. Do you have a nickname?
  65. What are your hobbies?
  66. Do you like to dance?
  67. Are you a party animal?
  68. How do surprises make you feel?
  69. Do you enjoy watching thriller movies?
  70. Would you save some money if you won the lottery?
  71. What is your favorite joke?
  72. Do you need any help with …. (any work)?

Expert advice: A recent Harvard study revealed that out of 300 people in the study, those who asked more meaningful follow-up questions (aside from questions like, “How are you?” or “What do you do?” found the person much more likable.

A question you can ask to get to know someone!
Conversation starter question

Good starters to use

  1. It’s pretty hot today! Are you comfortable?
  2. What’s your idea of a fun weekend?
  3. Do you like cola or fruit juice?
  4. Can I get you something?
  5. Do you think your life would be better without the internet?
  6. What’s your fondest memory of school?
  7. What’s your favorite clothing brand?
  8. Tell me more about your family.
  9. Do you have siblings?
  10. What is your favorite sport?
  11. Which is your favorite musical band?
  12. What are your plans for tomorrow?
  13. What are you most afraid of?
  14. Which is your go-to vacation destination?
  15. Do you have a big friend circle?
  16. Tell me something interesting about you that you want everyone to know about.
  17. Do you like this artwork/artifact?
  18. Do you like to play party games?
  19. Do you dream of becoming rich and famous or living a simple life?
  20. Do you prefer the country or the city?
  21. Trendy or vintage, what home interiors would you go for?
  22. Do you prefer staying indoors or outdoors?
  23. Do you want to grab a bite/a drink?
  24. Who is your role model?
  25. How interesting! I did not know that about you!
  26. Would you like to alter anything about your life?
  27. What’s your biggest motivation?
  28. Who is your ideal?
  29. What’s your favorite quote?
  30. What is the strangest gift you have ever received?
  31. Who is closest to you in the family?
  32. How do your close friends describe you?

Expert advice: Use the “A.C.T” method to help start conversations. A: AuthenticityC: ConnectionT: Topic of conversation (something you two share in common).

Deep conversation starters

  1. What is your greatest regret?
  2. What is your greatest fear?
  3. What are your political ideas?
  4. Do you think the government could do a better job with the (any recent situation) matter?
  5. What do you plan to achieve in the next five years?
  6. Do you think you are smart?
  7. Do you feel comfortable crying in public or do you cry alone?
  8. Are you good at hiding your dislikes and fears?
  9. Are you skeptical about strangers?
  10. What do you value most in a relationship?
  11. What’s your cue to get out of a relationship?
  12. What qualities in people upset you most?
  13. Do you judge a book by its cover?
  14. What’s your philosophy in life?
  15. What’s your greatest regret?
  16. Are you conventional?
  17. Do you look forward to getting old?
  18. What excites you the most in life?
  19. If you inherited anything from a stranger, would you accept it?
  20. If you found a bag of money on the streets, would you inform the police, or would you keep it?
  21. If you could have a different name, what would it be?
  22. Do you regret any lies you have told?
  23. Where would you choose to live after retirement?
  24. Do you prefer reading, playing sports, or watching TV for de-stressing
  25. Would you prefer hiring someone or doing your house chores if you had the time?
  26. Would you like to grow flowers or cacti in your pots?
  27. What would you like to be reborn as?
  28. Do you share a special bond with nature?
  29. Do you feel meditation can relax you?
  30. Is the glass half full or half empty?
A question you can ask to get to know someone!
Conversation starter question

Conversation starting questions for a girl

  1. What, according to you, was the greatest fashion disaster of the year?
  2. Do you have a ‘and then it got worse’ story?
  3. Have you learned anything important from your past relationships?
  4. Do you text or send emojis more often?
  5. What qualities in a man do you most admire?
  6. Intelligence or appearance, what do you observe more in a man?
  7. Was choosing your career path easy?
  8. At what age did you know what profession you wanted to get into?
  9. What kind of music makes you happy?
  10. Do you enjoy classic literature?
  11. What makes you smile the most?
  12. What has been the biggest challenge so far?
  13. What is the tackiest outfit you have ever worn?
  14. What TV show do you binge on?
  15. What’s your favorite potato chip flavor?
  16. Where do you like to go on vacation?
  17. If you could choose to be a queen, who would you be?
  18. If you could sing a song right now, which would it be?
  19. What sports do you like to watch?
  20. Do you have any favorite authors?
  21. Which superhero would you like to meet?
  22. If you could alter four things about your life, what would they be?
  23. What is your favorite subject?
  24. What is the craziest thing you have done?
  25. Do you like rollercoasters?
  26. What is your favorite fast food?
  27. What is your favorite festival?
  28. Do you collect something as a hobby? What?
  29. Which is your strongest sense out of the five?
  30. If you had a tattoo, what design would you go for?
Conversation starter question
Conversation starter question

Conversation starting questions for a guy

  1. What sports do you like to play?
  2. What weird food combination do you like?
  3. Have you ever been on a blind date?
  4. What’s your worst date experience?
  5. What name would you choose for your imaginary friend?
  6. Will you ever stalk someone on social media?
  7. What would it be if you had to carry some food in your pocket?
  8. What’s your favorite car?
  9. If you had a thousand dollars, how would you spend it?
  10. How do you approach new people?
  11. Who would you choose if you had to switch roles with one of your parents?
  12. Would you open an envelope with your death date mentioned inside?
  13. Which of your priorities has changed since you were a kid?
  14. Did any author make a big difference in your life?
  15. Would you choose an outdoorsy job or a desk job?
  16. What relationship scares you most?
  17. How do you like to spend your morning hours?
  18. A digital camera or a polaroid, what would you go for?
  19. What is your wildest dream?
  20. Which incident scared you the most?
  21. What makes you angry?
  22. If you wrote a book, what would you call it?
  23. What would be your first reaction if you knew you were staying in a haunted house?
  24. If you knew your friend was lying, how would you react?
  25. What bores you the most?
  26. If you had the ‘Last’ call, whose number would you dial?
  27. How do you like this place?
  28. Are you a religious person?
  29. Have you ever experienced any paranormal activity?
  30. How do you go from here (a place) to there (a place)?
  31. Are you familiar with this town?
  32. Do you think occasional cheating is ok?
  33. Do you work out daily?
  34. What’s your secret for such good skin?
  35. If you were a ladybug, what would be your name?
  36. What do you usually do to make your day exciting?
  37. What kind of roommate do you want?
  38. Do you want to change any family traditions?
  39. Which TV game show would you like to host?
  40. What popular trends bother you?
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Conversation starter question

Funny conversation-starting questions

  1. Why is a hot dog called a hotdog?
  2. Which farm animal would you like to be?
  3. What is your most disastrous wardrobe mistake?
  4. Would you like to be covered in scales or fur?
  5. Would you like to have a trunk or a beak?
  6. Would you like to crawl or jump all through your life?
  7. If you had x-ray vision, which place would you visit most often?
  8. Do you have a pseudonym?
  9. What recent incident made you laugh the most?
  10. Have you ever stolen anything?
  11. Have you ever purposely kicked anyone under the table?
  12. What smell puts you off?
  13. Why do zebras have stripes?
  14. If you fail the driving test, which part are you most likely to fail?
  15. What is the weirdest ghost story you’ve ever heard?
  16. What’s the funniest fact you know?
  17. What knock-knock joke do you use most often?
  18. If you could delete one color eternally, what would it be?
  19. Do people eat or drink soup?
  20. What do you think will be your pet’s catchphrase?
  21. If you owned one, what would you name your lingerie shop?
  22. What would be your campaign slogan if you ran for mayor?
  23. What funny nickname do you give your friends?
  24. What would you dress up as if you went to Comic-con?
  25. What talent would you show if you went to America’s Got Talent?
  26. What’s the most mouthful phrase that you have ever heard?
  27. What advantage would you use that feature for if you had a neck like a giraffe?
  28. Do you know which dog breed’s tongue is black?
  29. Seashells can change their sex. If you were one, what sex would you like to be?
  30. Did you know dolphins don’t need to sleep? How long do you think you can survive without sleeping?
  31. What is the coolest phrase you often use?
  32. What are the funniest song lyrics you have heard?
  33. While shopping in a supermarket, which aisle do you hit first?
  34. Would you choose to have a set of zombie or vampire friends?
  35. If you made a prank call, what would be your opening line?
  36. What would be your first show topic if you were a standup comedian?
  37. Do you ever wonder what your dog/goldfish (or any pet) thinks about you?
  38. If you discover a secret locker, what would you expect inside it?
  39. If you had two jobs, what would you want to be? I would be a baker-police.
  40. What would you choose if you could be a superhero with only one accessory? A cape or a shield? 
  41. Which do you think came first, the egg or the chicken?
  42. What would happen if Adam and Eve did not eat the apple?
Conversation starter question
Conversation starter question

Tinder openers and conversation starters

  1. You have a bird! I got one too. Tell me more about it. 
  2. You are a Capricorn (zodiac sign), I am a …. (Zodiac sign). We are the most compatible signs.
  3. This sounds a little awkward, but I am going to a fundraiser next week. Would you like to join me?
  4. Which fictional character do you relate yourself most to?
  5. Would you like to act in a movie without knowing the role?
  6. How long is your bucket list? What comes on top?
  7. Which is your favorite restaurant?
  8. Which is your favorite cuisine?
  9. If you think of vacation, which place comes to your mind first?
  10. What is your New Year’s Resolution?
  11. Do you like taking selfies?
  12. What was your most embarrassing date moment?
  13. What’s your guilty pleasure?
  14. What’s the worst gift you ever got but did not part with?
  15. What’s the last thing you notice in people?
  16. What’s your flirting style?
  17. Who do you think, a girl or a boy, should make the first move?
  18. Are you nervous talking to people when you meet them first?
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Conversation starter question

Crush conversation-starting questions

  1. Are you looking forward to anything in life?
  2. Do you have tattoos?
  3. When is your birthday?
  4. What’s your favorite music genre?
  5. What color clothes make you feel most comfortable?
  6. A princess or a scientist, what would you choose to be?
  7. How different are your weekdays and weekends?
  8. Do you like cooking for others?
  9. With whom would you travel to your favorite vacation destination?
  10. What do you do for fun?
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Chris Pleines

Expert advice: Chris Pleines, from Dating Scout suggests that referencing something he or she likes is the best way to eliminate any awkwardness when starting a conversation with a potential crush.

Texting conversation starter prompts

  1. Can I meet you?
  2. What do you do on a nice-weather day?
  3. What keeps you motivated?
  4. Do you have phobias? What ones?
  5. Do you have any favorite ethnic food?
  6. What’s one thing that you dislike about technology?
  7. What gives you goosebumps?
  8. What are your most-used apps?
  9. What are you terrible at?
  10. What action movie could you watch multiple times?
Conversation starter question
Conversation starter question

Conversation starters to use on kids

  1. Do you think unicorns exist?
  2. Do you want to meet an alien?
  3. What’s Your favorite subject?
  4. Would you fight a dragon or a dinosaur?
  5. Would you like to share your space with a robot or a dog?
  6. Do you like haunted houses?
  7. Do you enjoy visiting the zoo?
  8. Do you have many friends?
  9. What’s your favorite ice cream flavor?
  10. What’s your favorite Halloween costume?
  11. What do you want for your birthday?
  12. Who makes you laugh the most?
  13. Which animal is your favorite?
  14. What activity do you like to do most with your family?
  15. Which is your favorite cake?
  16. What is something that you wish you could do every week?
  17. What food that your mother cooks is your favorite?
  18. What would you select if you had to choose a color for your game jersey?
  19. What has been your most fun school project so far?
  20. Who is your favorite superhero?
  21. Which is the funniest story you have ever heard?
  22. Which is your favorite body part?
Conversation starter question
Conversation starter question

Conversation starters for a boyfriend

  1. What do you think of a spontaneous date?
  2. Are you receptive to new ideas?
  3. What made you choose me?
  4. Has anyone ever broken your heart?
  5. What frightens you the most?
  6. Who was your teen celebrity crush?
  7. As a kid, how did you imagine your teens?
  8. Have you ever used makeup?
  9. What is your grossest habit?
  10. What’s the lamest excuse you give?
  11. Your cheekiest pickup line is ……………
  12. Do you delete your text messages to hide them from someone?
  13. What food can’t you give up?
  14. If you could answer only one message today, whose would you answer?
  15. Would you lie to avoid a date?
  16. Your favorite video game or a romantic date, what would you choose?
  17. What online dating sites have you tried?
  18. Would you rather travel in a submarine or a tank?

Conversation starters for a girlfriend

  1. What part of the day do you love most?
  2. Who is your favorite stylist?
  3. How do you like to dress up, casual or formal?
  4. What is your favorite pattern – dots, stripes, checks
  5. What is your goal in life?
  6. What is your daily routine?
  7. Do you like grating?
  8. Do you paint? What’s your favorite medium?
  9. What instrument do you like to listen to?
  10. When do you feel most loved?
  11. Do you want to get married in the future?
  12. Do you think cooking for your family is caring for them?

Interesting conversation starters

  1. Do you like adventure sports?
  2. Given a choice to be anyone in the world, who would you choose to be?
  3. Who would you want as a special dinner guest?
  4. You would like to be famous for what?
  5. What would be your perfect day like?
  6. Which song do you mostly sing in the bathroom?
  7. If you could rule a country, which one would you choose?
  8. What things in your life are you most grateful for?
  9. If you could ask for a talent, what would it be?
  10. Do you enjoy family vacations?
  11. Would you like to spend a year away from the city?
  12. Would you like to travel the world or relax on your couch?
  13. Do you want to time travel?
  14. If you won a lottery, would you donate it or splurge?
  15. If you could win an award, which one would you choose? Why?
  16. Which is the coolest place you have visited?
  17. What would be your last words?
  18. What do you think should be avoided in a resume?
  19. What’s your take on aliens?
  20. Do ghost stories bother you?
  21. What is your favorite dance style?
  22. If you wrote a biography, what would you call it?
  23. What would it be if you could create a career that’s missing until now?
  24. If you could fill a swimming pool with two kinds of food, what would you put in it?
  25. What would you choose if you could only wear shirts of a single color for the rest of your life?
  26. If you could do something illegal without the fear of getting caught, what would you do?
  27. If you had a choice, would you pick money or family?
  28. What kind of person were you in school?
  29. If you had to change your hair color or haircut, which one would you go for?
  30. What conversation topic are you most passionate about?

Random conversation-starting questions

  1. What’s your favorite footwear brand?
  2. Gooey or chewy, what kind of food do you prefer?
  3. What would it be if you could alter something about your growing-up years?
  4. Do you have any drink suggestions for me?
  5. What are your secret talents?
  6. What’s your favorite song?
  7. Which board game do you like most?
  8. If you could invest something, what would it be?
  9. If you get a chance, do you bully people?
  10. If you could see a band in a concert, which one would it be?
  11. Do you like sweet, salty, or a mix of both?
  12. Beer, wine, whiskey, or liqueur, what do you prefer?
  13. What would you be if you could turn a hobby into a job?
  14. Do you like to meet all your friends at once or in small groups?
  15. What do you understand about emotional maturity?
  16. Do you think a higher power exists?
  17. Should a job be for passion or survival?
  18. Should men and women have different roles?
  19. What qualities should a good person possess, according to you?
  20. How do you prefer to travel?
  21. If you were painting a portrait, which actor would you choose?
  22. Which foreign language would you like to be fluent in?
  23. Tahiti or Galapagos Islands, which exotic island would you prefer to go to on vacation?
  24. Ice Age or Madagaskar, which movie would you like to live out in real life?
  25. Do you enjoy a manicure or a head massage more?
  26. Cakes or ice cream, what do you choose?
  27. Do you play …………? (the name of the game like Candy Crush, Words with Friends)
  28. What mascot would you choose for your food brand?
  29. If you were an actor, what would your screen name be?

Christmas conversation starters

  1. Where do you like to spend Christmas?
  2. What Christmas food reminds you of Santa Claus?
  3. Which one of Santa’s eight reindeer would you like to keep?
  4. Do you know the eight names of Santa’s reindeer?
  5.  Would you like to visit the North Pole at Christmas?
  6. What is your favorite Christmas memory?
  7. What is your best Christmas gift so far?
  8. Do you believe in Santa Claus?
  9. If you were Santa, to whom would you deliver the first gift?
  10. Which is your most loved Christmas carol?

Thanksgiving conversation starters

  1. What are you most grateful for?
  2. When were you most thankful in your life?
  3. Who do you think played the most essential role in your life?
  4. Which holiday do you most look forward to?
  5. What do you find the best on Thanksgiving?
  6. What is the kindest thing you have done for someone?
  7. What would you say if you had to describe yourself in two sentences?
  8. Is there anything you want to improve about your behavior?
  9. Thanksgiving dinner or a party with friends, what do you look forward to the most?
  10. Do you have any special Thanksgiving traditions?

Dinner table conversation starters

  1. Do you want to share any cooking tips?
  2. Which is your most memorable family dinner?
  3. What is the most delicious chicken dish you have ever had?
  4. Who is the person whom you most admire?
  5. What is the biggest risk you’ve ever taken?
  6. If you owned a food cart, what would you name it?
  7. What are your favorite late-night snacks?
  8. Cola or beer, what would you choose to drink for the rest of your life?
  9. What is your worst restaurant experience?
  10. In a menu, what do you see first, the price or names of food?

Conversation starters for married couples

  1. Do you remember how we first met?
  2. Am I anything like your “dream” life partner?
  3. What did you find attractive in me?
  4. Were you nervous talking to me the first time?
  5. What makes you think of me the most?
  6. Who was your first love?
  7. What is the purpose of marriage?
  8. What do you think is your best quality?
  9. Is it easier to argue with me or pacify me?
  10. What are you most grateful for in life?

Conversation starters for work

  1. What’s the latest project you are working on?
  2. How’s work treating you?
  3. Are you comfortable in this office?
  4. What’s your highlight of this week?
  5. Do you have any complaints about your work?
  6. How do you find the office environment?
  7. Are you nervous about the project/presentation/interview?
  8. What do you like best about working in this organization?
  9. What statements hurt you the most?
  10. What is your dream job?
  11. Are you close to your colleagues?
  12. What do you find most motivating in your job?

Weird conversation starters

  1. If a thief wants to steal your mobile phone or laptop, what would you give?
  2. Do you think aliens/zombies/robots will take over the earth one day?
  3. If you forget your bag at my house, what will I find when I open it?
  4. If you get locked in a mall for one night, which shop would you try to enter first?
  5. Would you go to a movie where they don’t allow snacks?
  6. What mundane activity would you wish to change, using magic for the rest of your life, and why?
  7. What item do you keep next to your bed that others would find weird?
  8. What TV show would you never star in? Which one would you hope to be in?
  9. What’s the weirdest thing you’ve ever bought or reached close to buying?
  10. What’s your best excuse for being late, and which place did you use it at?
  11. What’s the freakiest talent you have? Could you show it right now?
  12. As a child, what was the most unique name you gave a pet or stuffed toy?
  13. Which band or musician would you love to go on a cross-country road trip with?
  14. What’s your comfort movie and why?
  15. What song do you swear you don’t listen to but is secretly your guilty pleasure?
  16. What would you put in the world’s best sandwich if you could make it?
  17. What is the most extreme fashion faux pas you have ever made? Could you show what it looked like?
  18. If you could declare any day of the year a national holiday, what would you call it?
  19. What fictional world would you love to be born into?
  20. If you could remain undefeated in any field, what field would it be?
  21. What would you eat on the fourth day if you remained unfed for three days?
  22. What’s the weirdest combination of food you’ve ever seen someone eat?
  23. What product do you hope will die out in the next 5 years and why?

Date night conversation starters

  1. If you have a choice to put on either lipstick or eyeshadow, which one would you pick?
  2. What’s the creepiest pick-up line? How do you know it?
  3. How do you want to be proposed to?
  4. Do you think marriage changes relationships?
  5. Do you believe in soulmates?
  6. Do you think true love exists?
  7. What’s your take on ‘Love at first sight’?
  8. Are you scared to date strangers?
  9. What do you think is your soul age?
  10. Do you have any special ‘date moves’?
  11. Does flirting come to you naturally?
  12. What are your best and worst habits?

Conversation starter questions to use on a teenager

  1. What would you teach a talking parrot to speak first?
  2. What drives you crazy?
  3. Which is your favorite cafe?
  4. What food smell makes you feel hungry?
  5. What’s your dream birthday gift?
  6. Do you write a diary/journal?
  7. What card game do you like?
  8. Do you want to go to other countries? Which? Why?
  9. Do you want to study abroad?
  10. Does the idea of a solo travel experience excite you?
  11. What birthday gift do you usually give to your friends?
  12. Which fictional character do you adore the most?
  13. Which fictional character can’t you tolerate?
  14. What band do you listen to the most?

Conversation prompts for groups

  1. Are you a fan of pineapple on pizza?
  2. Which food best represents each state in the US?
  3. Tell us the funniest joke you have heard.
  4. Who would you choose if you had to choose a partner in crime from this group?
  5. How did you meet the host?
  6. Have you ever been saved by anyone? How? Would you do the same for someone else?
  7. What’s your favorite social media platform?
  8. How would you sum up this entire event in two sentences?
  9. I’m planning a short trip, could you suggest some good places?
  10. What would you choose if you had to choose a random topic for a presentation?

Cute starters

  1. What do you wish you had an unlimited supply of?
  2.  What was the weirdest profession you wanted to be after growing up, and what did you like about it?
  3.  If you were the dictator of the whole world, who would be the first person you get rid of?
  4. If you could only eat the same food for every meal for the rest of your life, what would you choose to eat?
  5. What would be the title of the sitcom capturing your life?
  6. What’s a food combination only you like and other people hate?
  7. What clothing didn’t you want to wear but had to buy anyway? Why did you buy it?
  8.  Name a new word you’d like to add to the dictionary and what it will mean.
  9. Which two regular activities become weird once you do them one after the other?
  10. Have you ever encountered or heard anybody encounter your doppelgänger (look-alike)?
  11. If you could open your own store, what would you name it, and what would it sell?
  12. What would you want your stage name to be if you were famous?
  13. Which character from any fictional world do you relate to and why?
  14. What song do you predict will play on the radio for the ‘oldies’ in the next 30 years?

Simple starters

  1. Hello, it’s nice to meet you. What’s your name?
  2. Do you like summer or winter? Why?
  3. What’s your worst date experience so far?
  4. What popular food combination can you not tolerate, and why not?
  5. What would be a perfect Sunday for you?
  6. Have you seen that viral (elaborate on the one you mean) meme/video?
  7. Have you tried meditation or yoga for de-stressing?
  8. What would you choose if you had to buy yourself a birthday gift?
  9. How do you measure a person’s success?

Romantic starters

  1. What love song makes you cry?
  2. A person with what qualities would be a good match for you?
  3. What is your favorite childhood fairytale?
  4. How do you like to relax?
  5. Would you like to go on a double date with a famous couple? Who?
  6. Who adds happiness and value to your life?
  7. Which romantic movie could you watch time and again?
  8. What are the top three things you would like to do with me?
  9. Is there any romantic wish you want to fulfill with me?
  10. Candle night dinner or watching the sunrise together, what would you prefer?

For a friend

  1. How do you react in moments of stress?
  2. Where did you get that shoe?
  3. Your outfit looks great today. What are you going to wear tomorrow?
  4. What’s your latest favorite video game?
  5. Who is your recent role model?
  6. What significant lesson did you learn from your relationships?
  7. Do you need help with anything?
  8. What’s triggering stress in your life?
  9. What makes you feel alive?
  10. Why do you think you were born?

For families

  1. Who do you feel most comfortable sharing your secrets with?
  2. Miracles do happen. Do you believe in them?
  3. What makes you feel lonely?
  4. Who did you play with today in school?
  5. You can share your secrets with me. I will keep them safe.
  6. Prayers have power. Should we pray as a family?
  7. Do you have anything that you want to share with me?
  8. Would you like to try any new food?
  9. What do you think makes a happy family?
  10. Which family tradition do you like most?

For students

  1. What’s your favorite indoor game?
  2. Which subject do you enjoy studying most? Why?
  3. What cereal do you like the best?
  4. What do you like to do during recess?
  5. Did you like being a child? Why?
  6. As a parent, what rules would you apply to your child?
  7. What traditions in your house don’t you like?
  8. How would you deal with a bully?
  9. What do you worry about most?
  10. What chore do you like most?

Bumble conversation starters

  1. What is your idea of a great date?
  2. You have fantastic travel photos. What places did you visit?
  3. I couldn’t help but notice your t-shirt print. You seem to have a good sense of humor!
  4. Do you like public displays of affection?
  5. Do you like to give or receive more?
  6. How would you define a fantastic weekend?
  7. What are your most and least favorite things to do? 
  8. Would you ride the waves, climb the mountains, or sleep on a weekend?
  9. Do you want to go out for coffee/wine/beer with me?
  10. So do you like ……(Chinese/Italian/Thai/other cuisines) food. Have you tried …..(restaurant/food name)?
  11. You seem to have an interesting life! What’s your plan for next weekend?
  12. How do you make your Sundays interesting?
  13. I am planning to watch a movie today. Do you know any good classic thrillers?
  14. What is the sexiest name you have seen on social media? 
  15. What one thing usually people form an opinion about you that isn’t true?
  16. If you had to delete all apps from your phone but 3, which would you keep?
  17. Do you mind answering these pre-screening questions for me?
  18. If you saw me in a bar, would you say hi?
  19. Is there a funny story behind that photo?
  20. I frequent that restaurant too. Do you think we have crossed paths?
  21. If you got the option to change your career, what would you pick?
  22. Would you choose – black or white/ sweet or spicy/ mountain or beach (any two options)

Fun conversation starters

  1. Do you rehearse before making a phone call?
  2. Which is the funniest reel you have seen?
  3. Do you like to watch prank videos?
  4. What would you say if you had to introduce yourself with a hint of humor?
  5. If you had the life of a dog, what would you mostly think of? Can you elaborate a little, please?
  6. Would you save a person or an animal if they were both in danger and you could only help one?
  7. Do you call yourself organized? Does your mother agree?
  8. Which strange dream can you remember?
  9. How do you spend your free time?
  10. What disgusting habits of people have you seen?

More conversation starters


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About the author

Ryan Sanderson (LCSW) Ryan is a game and relationship enthusiast who enjoys all things quizzes, games, fun, love, relationships, and family. He's a licensed social worker and helps families, couples, and children in need. He's spoken about love and relationships on Salon.com, Forbes, and Mirror, to name a few.

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