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Do Guys Know When They’ve Met The One? (ANSWERED!!)

I have a few friends who are always asking me relationship questions… I mean, if you had a whole blog about relationships and people—wouldn’t you be getting questions all the time? You would!! They are always asking me great things. And one of the tings they asked was, “Do guys know when they’ve met THE ONE?!” Well, I don’t know… They do and they don’t…

Traditionally speaking, it has always been easier to spot a woman that has found “the one” than a man. With signs like a glowing and lighter face when they’re together, it’s pretty easy to tell (for most women). 

From the way she acts, you can pretty much see the “head over heels” phase when she’s found the one. But it’s a bit more tricky when it comes to men. After all, for years, men have been conditioned to show less emotions. 

This brings us to our post. Today, we’ll dive into several signs hinting that a man has met “the one.” Continue reading if you’re curious about the signs. Let’s begin!

But Before We Do… My Experience With Meeting ‘THE ONE’

I’m a guy… And I can say that it can be very hard to discern whether you’re feeling an intense amount of attraction to someone physically (which sometimes can feel a lot like love) or whether you’re picking someone who is truly GOOD for you…

I had to go through a lot of personal learning (and time/therapy) to truly uncover why I was picking women for me who weren’t going to be good long-term partners.

When I finally met ‘the one,’ it was for so many reasons I didn’t expect. Things like:

  • Knowing she would be there for me.
  • Her knowing what ‘support’ mean to me.
  • Having her have a close relationship with my family (outside of me).

And many other factors that I never would have originally thought of when I first started dating. If you’re curious if he knows—ask yourself if you’re being the best version of YOU. And whether that is having any type of impact on what he could be feeling.

So to answer for myself, “do guys know when they’ve met THE ONE?” Well, only if you’re self-aware enough to know what THE ONE means!

7 Signs He Has Met The ONE!

Although these are not all the indications, here are some clear-cut signs that he has met the one. 

1. He Prioritizes Her Needs

Don’t get us wrong. Many guys carry a sense of responsibility towards almost anyone. But, when they meet “the one,” this responsibility shifts into an intense form, making him put her needs over everything else. 

Now, this isn’t entirely about doing grand gestures or performing the hero complex stunt. Instead, it’s focused on making small yet consistent efforts to make sure her comfort and happiness are prioritized. 

This could be something simple like adjusting schedules to spend quality time or something significant like personal sacrifices to ensure her well-being. This behavior type typically comes from a high sense of care and respect. 

So, when a guy begins to prioritize their partner’s needs, it clearly indicates that he now sees the woman as an essential and valuable part of his life. 

2. He Feels Intense Physical Attraction

The attraction we’re talking about here is not the “initial spark/chemistry” type we’d typically experience during the early relationship phase. It’s the kind of deep and lasting attraction that remains as your relationship progresses. 

This type of attraction is all about appreciating a woman’s presence, yearning for their touch, and getting mesmerized by their energy. It may even go beyond the physicality of a woman and serve as an essential part of creating a deep emotional bond. 

After all, physical attraction and emotional bonds are interconnected in many ways. So, if a guy feels consistent and strong physical attraction, it’s likely a huge sign that they’ve found the one.

Related: Signs he likes you but is playing it cool

3. He Feels at Peace

When guys meet the one, there’s a sense of comfort they exude toward their partner. This often appears as a form of profound and deep understanding of self-assurance and ease. 

In the traditional sense, a lot of men are still keen on keeping their guard up, as though it’s some sort of defence mechanism. So, if a guy is comfortable enough to let his guard down without worrying about what his partner will think, he has probably met the one. 

This very comfort can extend to other forms, such as sharing his vulnerabilities, which, if we’re being honest, is something that men keep to themselves. So, a deep-seated sense of peace and comfort clearly indicates that he has found a special person in his life. 

Do guys know when they've met the one? The harsh answer is — no. It really takes a lot for a guy to truly know this. Usually, a lot of bad experiences in the past...
Do guys know when they’ve met the one? The harsh answer is — no. It really takes a lot for a guy to truly know this. Usually, a lot of bad experiences in the past…

4. He’s Willing to Compromise

Guys, like every other human being, have habits and preferences. But you can expect this to change when they meet the right one as they’re drawn to commit and make compromises wherever needed. 

This doesn’t necessarily point to big issues but can also include small day-to-day things. When a guy meets the one, having things his own way all the time or winning petty arguments doesn’t seem as important. Rather, he’d value the relationship over being right. 

At this point, he’s willing to see the partner’s point of view and work towards a shared agreement. This changes his level of love and respect for the woman, making him compromise certain things and acknowledge his special person’s desires, feelings, and needs. 

Related: How do I tell if he loves me?

5. He Lets You in on His Secrets

As mentioned earlier, guys can be pretty guarded regarding their deepest fears, dreams, thoughts, and secrets. According to research, traditional masculine behaviour also influences men in not seeking help and sharing their feelings.

However, in the presence of the right one, they’ll slowly break their walls down. This is because they likely feel secure and safe enough to share their hidden parts. 

So, when a guy begins to confide and share his deepest thoughts, it’s a huge sign of trust. Remember that he’s not just sharing secrets but allowing you to peek into his soul. 

The desire of sharing secrets also shows that they’re seeing a possible future with you as he’s coming to terms with letting you in. Therefore, showing you all his sides, weaknesses, and strengths. 

6. His Confidence Increases

Not just for men but for any person, the feeling of having someone special by their side, supporting, loving, and believing them, allows them to gain a sense of higher self-esteem. Hence, this type of relationship likely makes him feel more content and confident in life. 

By feeling loved and accepted for who he is, it’ll do wonders for him in terms of confidence and self-esteem. 

Therefore, such newfound confidence can also allow him to gain more clarity about the woman in his life. This indicates that they’ve started seeing you as someone extra special in his life. 

Do guys know when they've met the one? Here's my best advice—just ask them!!!
Do guys know when they’ve met the one? Here’s my best advice—just ask them!!!

7. He Introduces You to His Close Circle 

When a man starts seeing you as the one, he’ll introduce you to his loved ones. This can include his closest friends and family members, like his siblings or parents. 

Moreover, he won’t simply introduce you but also start incorporating you into this part of his life more significantly. This also shows that he trusts you enough and trust contributes a lot to sustaining future relationships.

If you start seeing this sign, it possibly means that he has started seeing a future with you and wants his closest ones to have a stable relationship with you as well. 

Wrapping Up—Do Guys Know When They’ve Met the ONE!?

While it’s true that sometimes true love can take time, it’s also important to understand that sometimes you can immediately know how he feels towards you. 

Although these signs are not definite, if your man exhibits such characteristics, he likely considers you more than just “another woman” in his life and sees you as someone special. 

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About the author

Ryan Sanderson (LCSW) Ryan is a game and relationship enthusiast who enjoys all things quizzes, games, fun, love, relationships, and family. He's a licensed social worker and helps families, couples, and children in need. He's spoken about love and relationships on Salon.com, Forbes, and Mirror, to name a few.

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