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I Am Sorry For Hurting You My Love

I got a great question the other day, it said, “Ryan, what should I do when I’ve hurt someone that I care about? How should I say that I’m sorry to them? All I want to do is say I’m sorry for hurting you my love!”

That’s a great question! A study by Frontiers in Psychology shows that nearly every person on this earth accepts apologies differently. There are two types of apologies that the study looked at, sincere and instrumental apologies. When we’ve hurt someone we love, both types of apologies will be necessary to use.

My experience with saying sorry…

A quick story… I’ve hurt people that I’ve loved and cared about. I don’t intentionally try to do it. Sometimes, it happens naturally. For me, what I’ve learned, is that each person is looking for a different type of apology. Primarily, an apology note along with a type of commitment.

In the example messages below, you won’t see any type of commitment to a better future. For example, “committing to never make the mistake again.” To do that, we have to show someone that we understand our mistakes, how they hurt someone, and how we’re going to change them.”

Make sure that in your messaging, you include how you’re going to improve going forward. It makes your apology truly sincere and committed.

Best sorry for hurting your messages

—I am sorry for hurting you my love

  • Although I am a flawed human, this does not excuse my mistakes in relation to you. Even if I apologize, I know it won’t make a difference. I will maintain my word that I’ll change since I want to improve for you.
  • You are important to me; therefore, I never intended to upset you. My life will be ruined if I lose you. I apologize if I caused you to feel otherwise. I will always adore you.
  • I usually get into trouble. You are never at fault. I apologize for making you uncomfortable. I find it hard to comprehend that I wounded you. My life depends on you and nothing else. I swear to you that I’ll make my most outstanding effort to improve myself for you.
  • I’m sorry that my explosive anger has wounded you and made you sad. It still boggles my mind that you choose me to speak on your behalf. I’ll work hard to improve for you.
  • Sincerely, I’m working hard to improve for you. I’m sorry if I offended you. I respectfully beg for your forgiveness.
  • I am aware of your current rage toward me. I detest witnessing you weep. I blame myself for hurting you after realizing it. Allow us to remedy this, please. I promise to pay attention and broaden my understanding so I won’t lose you.
  • They claim there is always a conflict between lovers. They clash about their differences because they care about each other. But to be honest, I never had any desire to hurt you.
  • I’m aware I’ve grown too self-centered to think about your happiness. I understand that I can only be happy if I make you, my love, happy. I humbly beg your forgiveness.
  • I regret and feel bad about what I did. I’m angry with myself for hurting you. I’m sorry, and I do love you.
  • Only you could have taught me that begging for forgiveness in a humble manner is the bravest thing I have ever done. I’m frustrated because I offended the most crucial person in my life. You, my dear, are that person. I apologize, and I beg your forgiveness.
  • I’ve always thought you were a hearty person. I respectfully beg your forgiveness for everything that has disappointed you. I feel regret and humiliation. I won’t ever repeat this action. Please give me another opportunity.
  • I apologize if I offended you. My wrongdoings are now making me ill. Because I have harmed you the most, I feel I am losing the greatest blessings. I apologize. Forgive me, please.
  • Nobody is flawless, as you stated; therefore, nobody can be. We are all flawed individuals. You were upset by the faults I made. I humbly beg your forgiveness. I adore you a lot.

See also: Prayers for him

Sorry for hurting you messages for a guy

—I’m sorry for hurting you my love

  • You deserve a better lover than I’ve ever been. But, sweetheart, I assure you that you will wake up tomorrow with a new partner you deserve. I apologize.
  • You have filled me with all the love and care in the world since I first met you. However, I left your heart exposed and wracked with pain. You still give me all the good things in life, but I gave you tears. I beg your forgiveness, my sweetheart.
  • I know what I did yesterday caused you to feel wounded and humiliated. Please excuse my negative attitude and response. I apologize.
  • I inflict myself with blisters each time I cause you pain. Every time I irritate you, I am demeaning myself. Each time I whine to you, I am demeaning myself. My darling, I apologize.
  • I know that I have consistently tried to make you feel unwelcome and nasty. I wanted to demonstrate my worth to you. But I now see that I am only acting foolishly by failing to grasp that all you want is the best for me. I’m sorry, and I’ll love you always.
  • The saddest time for me was yesterday because I can’t believe we got into a fight last night. Whatever the cause, I apologize. I pledge to improve and do better going forward.
  • My darling, I apologize. You have been the one who supports me no matter what happens. But I always disappoint you.
  • I long for the times when we could tap our backs, cry and laugh together. I know I’ve done you harm and made you suffer. I’m pleading with you to forgive me.
  • I apologize for any errors I may have caused. I didn’t intend to do anything improper when I made my plans. I vowed never to repeat the action.
  • I greatly admire you. I regard you with the utmost respect. I’m ashamed right now since I messed up and offended you. Please allow me to repent and mend these issues with you.
  • I’ve been feeling quite lonely lately. I’m missing my darling softest hugs. Honey, please accept my sincere apology for what I did to you.
  • Although I offended you, it doesn’t mean I no longer have your unconditional love. I’m experiencing agony. I apologize, my lovely spouse.
  • A person who is charming, beautiful, and loving cannot be angry with me. Forgive me, please. I hope things may return to normal soon since I’m already missing you.

Related: I miss you texts for him

Sorry for hurting you messages for a girl

—I’m sorry for hurting you my love

  • I humbly beg your forgiveness, my ever-loving wife, for my poor temper and foul language. I will continue to adore you till I die. Forgive me, please.
  • Do you realise how deeply I love you? It is unquantifiable. I cried and felt my heart quake when I made that mistake because I did not want to lose you. Speak to me, please.
  • Honestly, my beloved, for my errors, I sincerely apologize. I acknowledge my mistake. Give me your large heart, and forgive me, please.
  • I now understand how much I damaged you since you were the one, I offended the most. I apologize for the altercation. My heart is breaking with grief. Please forgive me, my dear wife.
  • My darling, I apologize to you. It took me some time to learn that being arrogant makes you unfit to be my wife. I swear to do all in my power to prevent it from happening again.
  • I hope you understand how sincerely I apologize. I apologize for hurting you so much. I apologize for saying anything that might have caused pain. Please grant me your forgiveness, I beg you.
  • My emotions plague me because of the suffering I caused you both during the day and at night. I wish I could have given you joy instead of sadness. Forgive me, please.
  • I apologize for the error I made. I regret using foul language, acting shamefully, and expressing my rage in an immature manner. Please don’t let our sorrows divide us.
  • I regret what I said to you, and I feel ashamed. My nasty tongue is something I should be ashamed of. A simple “I’m sorry” might not be sufficient but if possible, please grant me your forgiveness.

Sorry for hurting you messages for an ex—I’m sorry for hurting you my love

—I’m sorry for hurting you my love

  • The worst failure of my life was breaking the heart of my best buddy. I apologize for all of it.
  • I wake up daily haunted by the anguish and suffering I caused you. My world’s most dependable individual is disappearing from my life. Forgive me, please.
  • I feel guilty. I’ve been worried and unable to sleep because I’m afraid of losing you. My foolish and immature behaviors are a burden. I apologize, and I sincerely hope we remain great friends.
  • I apologize for not being more sensible, which led to the unfortunate end of our relationship. I still have hope that you will forgive me eventually.
  • I wish I have avoided making a mistake that day. I want to reverse the suffering. I want to make those sufferings joyful. I apologize.
  • Our bond is being put to the test like gold in a fire. It gets more robust and more streamlined. I hope you will forgive me.
  • It was a sincere error on my part. I sincerely regret what I did.
  • I apologize for our argument. Love, I beg of you, forgive me!
  • My dearest friend, please forgive me. My life has never been better than yesterday. I appreciate you holding me despite the bad things I’ve done.
  • I apologize for occasionally taking you for granted.
  • I appreciate you giving me another chance to atone for my mistakes. I apologize once more for my behavior.
  • I am sorry that I harmed you. I’m apologizing right now. Will you be willing to forgive me?
  • Even with a little salt, our connection is still delicious. I apologize for my careless blunders with you.
  • The world’s greatest person’s smile is something I miss. Due to the distress I caused my closest friend; my world is gloomy and uninteresting. Give me your finest smile right now, please!
  • I feel like I’m in heaven when you’re here. You gave me solace. Now that a single error has dulled it, I feel sorry and alone. Please forgive me.
  • I’ll keep waiting till you forgive me forever.
  • I apologize, my dear friend. I’ve been bleeding from the heart ever since I harmed you. Your forgiveness can only heal the wounds in my heart.
  • Give every one of us an opportunity, please. Please accept my apologies for the one error I made. I apologize, my dearest friend and love.

Feeling terrible messages to use—when you’re sorry for hurting your love

—I’m sorry for hurting you my love

  • What will you choose if forgiveness is beautiful and anger is ugly?
  • I’m aware that I grew too self-centered and stopped thinking about how you might feel. I humbly ask for your forgiveness. My darling, please forgive me.
  • I’ve always thought that our friendship is centered on love. I hope you won’t disregard my honest and unreserved apologies.
  • I want a reliable person back in my life. Please forgive me.
  • All of what transpired must be attributed to me. Because of how much damage the circumstance did to our relationship, I am hurt.
  • I’m too much of a moron to make a mistake like that and risk losing your faith. I assure you that this was never my aim. I apologize, and I beg your forgiveness.
  • I’ll never stop hoping for the day when we can reconnect and relive our fun and silly days from before.
  • We are not the same in every way. We became the best friends that nobody can ever sever because of these differences. I sincerely apologize and ask for your forgiveness.
  • I apologize for avoiding you lately. I’m tired of having so many deadlines and things to do. I’ll make things right with you, I swear.
  • I apologize for my possessive and jealous behavior that irritated you. I pledge to control my anger and put my faith in your love.
  • I can already sense the emptiness. How am I supposed to survive without you? I’m crying now because of the careless error. My darling, I apologize. Forgive me, please.
  • I feel alone. Your soothing hug is something I miss. Forgive me, please.
  • If I desire anything right now, I would be to be back in your arms. Accept my apologies.

Short messages to use

—I’m sorry for hurting you my love

  • To me, you are everything. Please accept my apologies.
  • Being without you makes me miserable. Forgive me, please.
  • You’re crucial to my life. I want to see your smile once more! I’m very sorry.
  • I’m sorry. I’ll do anything to keep you in my arms again; please forgive me.
  • Please restore the sunlight and light of our former days. I sincerely apologize.
  • Your tears are too precious to waste. Allow me to make it up to you, please.
  • I apologize for all of my annoying actions, so please forgive me.
  • I wounded you, my most treasured possession. Forgive me, please.
  • I pledge to act more morally toward you.
  • My Mr. Right is you. Help me become more like you, please. I apologize for acting like a naive adolescent.
  • My heart hurts knowing that I harmed you because I can see the anguish in your eyes. Love, I’m very sorry.
  • It is insufficient to apologize. I need to act more maturely and adjust my mindset. Please be there for me.
  • My sunlight, please forgive me for acting a foolish last week; I can’t picture my life without you.
  • I apologize for my improper conduct. Please assist me in improving myself. Without you at my side, I am weak.
  • I’ve never found it simple to apologize, but I’m doing it right now while on my knees. Give me another opportunity, please.
  • The most agonizing experience I’ve ever had was waking up without seeing your gorgeous eyes alongside me. And I am aware of my wrongdoing, so please forgive me, my darling.
  • I’m sorry, beautiful wife, for hurting you so badly. Will you forgive me?
  • Please forgive me, and let’s spend the rest of our lives with each other. I don’t know whether heaven exists or not, although if it does, it’s simply a place with you. I adore you.

Long messages to use—I’m sorry for hurting you my love

—I’m sorry for hurting you my love

  • You will always be my top priority, no matter what. I pledge never to ignore your requests again. Will you accept my apology for what I did?
  • I swear never to disrespect you again, cause you harm, or otherwise cause you suffering. I apologize; please forgive me.
  • I apologize, my darling. Everything that transpired was my fault. I was stupid for missing it. My heartfelt repentance is sincere. So sweetheart, let’s have a fresh start.
  • I’m not sure if words could ever express how intensely I feel. I can only express my sincere regret.
  • I apologize for being so guarded. It’s just that I cannot stand to see anything ruin your smile.
  • I’m sorry if I offended you. I’m unsure how to apologize in a text message, but I wanted to do it immediately. Please forgive me.
  • I am aware that I am fallible and make errors. But I am so grateful that you are there to help me get back up when I stumble and guide me when in need.
  • As I watch the rainfall, I find myself crying. I recall the times we spent together. I reflect on our love and realize how foolish I was to hurt you while the rain drenches my flesh. I apologize. Give me another opportunity, please.
  • I’m sorry for what occurred. I believe that everything that happened was the result of my immature perspective, making me feel like a complete moron. I wish I could still have the opportunity to welcome you into my warm arms. I regret everything, and I adore you so much.
  • I want to apologize to you. My adoring wife, I apologize for speaking rudely to you and hurting your feelings. My work-related stress is not an acceptable justification for acting cruelly. I apologize. Thank you for your forgiveness.

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About the author

Ryan Sanderson (LCSW) Ryan is a game and relationship enthusiast who enjoys all things quizzes, games, fun, love, relationships, and family. He's a licensed social worker and helps families, couples, and children in need. He's spoken about love and relationships on Salon.com, Forbes, and Mirror, to name a few.

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