Texting someone you like is a good move and a bad move. The good move is that you’re engaging with them. And that’s a good thing! The bad move is that, well, you don’t know each other! And so, sometimes, texting can be a not so great form of communication. When Erin, my friend, asked me, “Ryan, what are questions to ask your crush while texting?” I said, well, I’ve got some answers!
Questions to text your guy crush
—Questions to ask your crush while texting!
- What is your ideal husband and wife life looking like?
- If you had to pick which features you like most in a girl, which ones are they?
- How did today go? What’s something that’s on your mind?
- If you had to choose one thing that could make your week better, what would it be?
- What are you going to be doing this weekend?
- How do you like to spend your Saturdays?
- What do you and the guys do together?
- When was the last time you made a big mistake in life?
- What’s one thing that you really cherish about yourself that you don’t ever want to change?
- What’s your ideal characteristics in a woman?
More questions to ask…
- Are you dating anyone right now?
- What did your last relationship look like?
- What’s something that you like to do when you’re alone?
- Did you binge watch any recent TV shows this weekend?
- What is the last movie that you watched?
Related: How to respond to the “How are you” text
Questions to text your girl crush
—Your girl crush will love these text messages!
- If you could be any animal, which animal would it be and why?
- Which celebrity do you think you look the most like?
- Do people ever compliment you on one thing? What is it?
- How often do you go to the bathroom each day?
- When do you think that you would like to be married?
- Do you think that you want to have kids? If so, how many?
- When was the last time that you got in trouble at school?
- Have you ever gotten in trouble with the law? If so, what happened?
- Did you ever kiss a guy before the age of 15?
- What’s something that really makes you swoon for a guy?
Even more great ones…
- Are you interested in dating guys right now?
- What happened in your last relationship? Why did it end?
- Who has the most influence on your future?
- Do you like your mom or dad more?
- What do you and your siblings do together?
Expert advice: It’s really no secret—texting leads to miscommunication. A lot of people are going to agree: texting is the worst form of communication that you could pick. And I tend to agree. Studies have shown that texting really is ruining personal relationships.
Flirty questions for ANY situation
—Fun and flirty questions over text you should be sending to your IDEAL CRUSH!
- Can you twist a cherry with your tongue?
- What’s a very weird habit that you have that you wouldn’t tell anyone?
- If I told you a secret, would you tell me one?
- Do you know when you last looked the best? Because I do!
- What’s the worst pick up line someone has ever used on you?
- Do you have any celebrity crushes that you’re completed embarrassed by?
- How often do you go and look in the mirror?
- Is love something that you think that you can define!
- If you had to pick one topic to talk about—what would it be and why?
- Do you think I’m cute? 😉
See also: Text conversation starters
Getting to know you questions to ask! Good ones!
—Good ones to ask to get to know each other!
- How many siblings do you have?
- Do you have any values that you live by?
- Do you go to church on the weekends?
- When was the last time that you did volunteer work?
- What’s one thing that you do that you’re really proud of?
- How many times have you gotten into trouble in life?
- Do you have an ideal goal for your career?
- What do you want your life to look like in the next 5-years?
- Do you think it’s realistic for us to set goals in life? Or should we live every day to the fullest?
- What’s something that you’ve never told anyone?
Expert advice: Ph.d., and Psychologist Maggie Mulqueen says, “As a psychotherapist, I see this phenomenon almost daily, along with the unintended consequences it causes. Patients often read me text messages during therapy sessions in hopes that I can decipher them, since without facial cues and tone of voice, it can be challenging to understand the intention of the message.”
See also: What does a ‘no text response’ mean?
Banter questions to ask your crush
—When you just want the conversation to go back and forth! Questions to ask your crush while texting!
- When do you want me to come pick you up this weekend?
- If I asked you out on a date, what would you say?
- Would you rather go on an activity date or a dinner date?
- When’s the last time that you went on a REALLY bad date? What happened?
- Who inspires you the most in life?
- Do you like to read? If so, what books are reading right now?
- What fashion trend are you embarrassed to have jumped on?
- Is there someone at school that you think about a lot?
- Is there someone at work that you think about a lot?
- Did you know that you’re really pretty and that I’m afraid to tell you that? 😉
Related: I miss you texts (for him)!
My Experience Texting a Crush…
Here’s what is really important… Get to know each other! If the two of you don’t know who you are yet, then it’s going to be really hard to advance the relationship.
Your only goal should be to align on values and what you are both looking for in a relationship. And that’s the advice that I have based on my own experiences.
If I would have asked a few questions up front, I might have saved myself a lot of time in the long-run. I would have learned that the girl I was texting really had no interest in a long-term relationship. Or vice versa, at times.
These questions help to expose the intention behind someone wanting a healthy relationship. Use them! And move on if it’s not what you’re looking for.
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