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Looking for the best sexy questions to ask? Sexy questions can be flirtatious, and fun, and help build an intimate connection with your partner. If you’re looking for a few ideas, these questions are sure to turn up the heat!

Sexy questions
Sexy questions

Best questions to ask

  • When did you lose your virginity?
  • Why did you split up with your previous partner?
  • What does your pet say about me?
  • If I gave you a million dollars right now, would you use it for yourself or for someone else?
  • What has ever happened to you that has made you feel the most embarrassed?
  • What’s the best thing about being single?
  • Do you like being touched
  • How often do you touch yourself? 
  • What do you like on your fingers?
  • What is your favorite body part of the opposite sex?
  • What do you find sexiest in a man?
  • What are some of your favorite movies?
  • What do you enjoy doing when you have free time?
  • What is one of your strangest past behaviors?
  • What animal, if any, would you like to be, and why?
  • How long have you been in the service industry?
  • What is the most interesting thing you have done in the last 3 months?
  • How do you feel about sexy questions to ask?
  • What do you find sexy?
  • What is your favorite sex position?
  • What’s the best thing you’ve ever given to yourself in bed?
  • What do you think makes a person most alluring in your opinion?
  • Which of your physical traits do you believe is the best?
  • What would you give the first child you had?
  • What is the first thing you notice about someone?
  • Are there any questions you’d like to ask each other before we leave?
  • What and who would you ask a renowned person if you could only ask them one question?
  • What do you mean by sexy?
  • What are some of the things that give you sexy feelings?
  • What is your turn-on?
  • What are the best ways you have given or received pleasure?
  • What is the most interesting thing you’ve ever seen or heard?

Expert advice: Funny or witty banter helps people to get to know each other. Yes, you knew this. However, it is backed by real studies. Banter (especially funny chit-chat) can have strong psychological effects on the person you’re communicating with.

Sexy questions
Sexy questions

My experience asking these questions…

Okay, okay… So I’ve had a few relationships myself. And here’s what I learned… if I had asked a few tailored questions in the beginning, I might have saved myself from getting into a poor relationship. That’s what brought me to relationship questions. They help you save yourself from future misery. Or help you find future happiness.

Here are my BEST tips based on my own experiences…

  • Remember a few that you like – Keep a couple of your favorite questions in mind. Try to remember a few for when the moment strikes you.
  • Don’t forget these as a tool – Whenever there’s a dull moment, whether you’re with a spouse or family… pull out a few of these questions.
  • Don’t take it too seriously – Especially when it comes to spouses or those you might be romantically interested in. This isn’t a time to start digging! Have fun, make it silly, and don’t take it all too seriously.

Related: Dirty texts

Sexy questions for couples

  • What question would you ask your partner if you could ask anything?
  • Do you feel like your relationship has changed in the last year?
  • What do you like to do together?
  • What’s your favorite thing about the person you’re dating?
  • What is the most surprising thing about your partner?
  • What aspect of marriage is your favorite?
  • How do you tell your partner what you want or need in bed?
  • In what ways do you think you have influenced each other?
  • What was the most romantic thing someone has done for you?
  • If you could describe your partner in one word, what would it be?
  • What is a good way for couples to communicate?
  • Do you and your significant other have similar views on some of the main issues like marriage, children, religion, etc.?
  • What do you like best about one another?
  • What was the worst disagreement you’ve ever had with a partner?
  • What do you like best about dating or being married to your partner?
  • What is something you have done together in the last year?
  • Have you ever fought in public?
  • What significance does marriage have?
  • What are your main points of contention with your spouse?
  • How have your previous relationships influenced who you are today?
  • How do you see the job of your partner?
  • How do you maintain a happy and healthy relationship?
  • What was your worst dating experience, and why?
  • What did you initially think about your partner?
  • What is the funniest thing the other has done?
  • What do you find the most challenging thing about being married?
  • What is a great date night idea you have?
  • What do you love about your partner?
Sexy questions
Sexy questions

Sexy questions for a guy

  • What are some characteristics of a man you’re looking for in a partner?
  • Are you the outdoorsy type?
  • What is your favorite thing about yourself?
  • Describe one of your most memorable nights out.
  • What was the best year of your life?
  • What is your first memory of a girl?
  • What is your dream girl?
  • What would you say to yourself when you were 18 if you could?
  • What does being a man entail?
  • Do you have any advice for a man looking to ask a woman out?
  • What is your life like? Are you now most enthusiastic about?
  • Which location have you always yearned to visit?
  • What is your favorite sport to watch?
  • Would you make any changes if you had a chance to start over?
  • If you could, what ability would you wish to have for a day?
  • What do you think is the most crucial aspect of a relationship?
  • Why do you think it is important to ask questions?
  • How do you feel being a man in a mainly woman-dominated profession?
  • How did you decide to start your company?
  • What do you do with your free time?
  • How would you describe yourself to a friend?
  • If you were to take a walk and meet someone who was interested in learning about the world, what would be your first question?
  • What do you want to achieve in life?
  • How do you feel about money?
  • What do you think about God?
  • What was your best day ever?
  • What is the best way to lose weight?
  • Which methods are most effective for enhancing health?
  • What is the best way to become a better person?
  • How do I become more attractive?
  • What’s the best way to get over someone?
Sexy questions
Sexy questions

Unique and dirty questions to ask

  • Do you like it when people talk dirty to you?
  • Do you watch porn?
  • Have you ever had shower sex?
  • What was the last dirty dream that you had?
  • What do your lips taste like?
  • Have you ever been skinny dipping?
  • What’s your dirtiest sexual fantasy?
  • Do you like to use sex toys?
  • What does dirty talk sound like to you?
  • What’s your favorite sex scene in a movie?
  • Have you ever played strip poker?
  • What do you think about anal sex?
  • Have you ever had a one-night stand?
  • Are you happy with your sex life?
  • What’s one of your sexual fantasies?
  • What’s an instant turn-on for you?
Sexy questions
Sexy questions

Questions for a girl

  • What are your biggest weaknesses?
  • What makes you angry?
  • What do you like most about yourself?
  • If you had to do it all over again, would you change anything?
  • What are your life goals?
  • Who would I like to meet if I could meet anybody anywhere?
  • If I could ask you one question, what would it be?
  • Who was the last person you texted?
  • What was the last thing you said to someone?
  • What was the last thing you did that made you happy?
  • Why do some people seem to get along with everyone while others find it hard to make friends?
  • What makes you happy every time you think about it?
  • What are your life objectives?
  • What do you hope will happen in the future?
  • What do you want to accomplish in life?
  • Do you know what I want for dinner tonight?
  • If I were a superhero, which one would I be and why (this can be a little cheesy but funny)
  • What is your biggest fear in life? 
  • How many times this week have you lied to me?
  • What do you think of the notion of having sex?
  • Do you think that having sex is a good thing or a bad thing?
  • Do you think that it’s important to be able to have sex or not?
  • Would you rather have sex in public or not?
  • What is your opinion on pornography? 
  • Is it something that should be avoided completely, or is it something that can be enjoyed in moderation?
  • How do you feel about the size and shape of your body?
  • Do you enjoy receiving instructions?
  • Do you like to be treated nicely or badly by people?
  • Do you like to have one person who is in charge of everything, and then everyone else is just along for the ride?
  • What are your thoughts when you’re depressed or unhappy?
  • How do you feel about being alone? Are you happy being alone, or do you want someone else with you all the time?
  • Do you ever become angry with yourself for not doing something well enough or smart enough or never quite living up to your own standards?
Sexy questions
Sexy questions

Questions for your boyfriend

  • Do you like me?
  • Do you think I’m hot?
  • Is this a date?
  • Would you kiss me?
  • Will I see you again?
  • Do you want to be my boyfriend?
  • So what would you want to do when you reach adulthood?
  • Where will we go on our honeymoon?
  • What is the best way to spend time with your boyfriend? How do you make the time?
  • What is the biggest challenge in your current relationship?
  • What do you like personally about your companion?
  • Why do you think men like women with long hair?
  • What’s the sexiest thing about me?
  • When you are away from your partner, what do you miss the most?
  • When was the last time you had sex?
  • What is your favorite memory that you have with your parents?
  • Did you have any nicknames growing up?
  • What would you do right away if you could?
  • If you were stranded on a desert island, what would you do?
Sexy questions
Sexy questions

Sexy questions for your girlfriend

  • What is your favorite sexual position?
  • What do you think is the most attractive feature of a woman?
  • How do you feel about me?
  • Is it important to have a good balance between work and personal life?
  • How do you feel about the last date you went on?
  • How would you describe your personality?
  • What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done?
  • What was something that you wanted to do in business but couldn’t…?
  • What do you think is the most sensual thing a girl can do?
  • What are your feelings toward sex and intimacy?
  • What is your favorite physical trait of your partner or significant other?
  • What is your favorite thing about dating me?
  • What do you cherish most about our union?
  • What tasks do you like to pursue in your recreational time?
  • Which body part is your favorite, and why?
  • What are your thoughts on sensuality in general?
  • What is your favorite thing to do with your significant other?
  • What is your sexual fantasy?
  • What is your current relationship status?
  • Where is the most intimate place you have been?
  • What kinds of pursuits do you relish in your free time?
  • What factors are most crucial to your happiness?

Truth or dare sexy questions


  • What is your strangest sexual experience?
  • Do you have any tattoos or piercings?
  • What is the most daring thing you’ve ever done?
  • Which of your past behaviors has caused you the most embarrassment?
  • Do you have a crush on anyone?
  • Do you like it when someone takes care of you?
  • What is your worst habit?
  • How many siblings do you have?
  • Have you ever been in love? If so, how did it end? 
  • What did you last do the night before going to bed?
  • Is there somebody who, just by entering the room, makes your heart skip a beat?
  • What superpower, if any, would you like to have, and why?
  • What is your all-time favorite movie, and why?
  • What would you do, and if you could, where would you go to have a year of unrestricted, free travel anywhere in the world?
  • Who do you consider to be the most attractive female on the planet?
  • Do you think love can be found at first sight?

Sexy questions that are “would you rather” style

  • If you could walk through walls or fly, which would you choose?
  • Would you rather be able to go out of body or communicate telepathically?
  • Would you rather have the power to affect others or read minds? Would you even want to?
  • Would you rather have a smart, sexy girlfriend who’s also funny and loyal or a dumb hottie who makes you feel inferior?
  • Which type of friend would you prefer to have so hot they’re practically an angel or so cool they’re almost a devil?
  • Would you rather spend your whole life with a person who is stunning both inside and out or someone whose heart is as cold as their soul?
  • Would you rather date a woman who can’t stop talking about herself or one who won’t shut up about all the things she does for others?
  • Would you rather date a woman whose body is so perfect that it doesn’t matter what she does to it?
  • One whose face is so beautiful that it doesn’t matter what she does to it?
  • Would you instead go out with a girl who is crazy hot but doesn’t know how to care for herself?
  • One whose looks are amazing but lacks the personality to match them up?
  • Would you prefer to have the best appearance in your class at school, but everyone thinks your clothes are too trendy, or be average looking but have great style ideas?
  • Would you rather date a girl who loves everything about herself, even her flaws, or someone who hates everything about her?

Questions to ask over text

  • How did you meet?
  • What do you think of my outfit?
  • What’s your favorite movie?
  • What’s your favorite band/artist?
  • What are your hobbies/interests?
  • If I gave you $100,000, what would you spend it on?
  • Would you rather eat hot dogs for the rest of your life or have peanut butter and jelly sandwiches for the rest of your life?
  • If I had the freedom to travel anywhere for free, where would it be?
  • If we could only watch one show together for the rest of our lives, what would it be?
  • What are you up to tonight?
  • How was your day?
  • Which act of kindness has someone ever shown you?
  • When was the last time someone made you laugh?
  • What do you enjoy doing when you have free time?
  • Do you have any pets?
  • Why haven’t you called me back yet?
  • How many relationships have you ended with a girl and then dated her again?
  • Do you prefer movies or music while we’re together?
  • Who is your favorite musician/singer right now?
  • Can I see you again sometime this week? 
  • Are there any special events coming up that we should both be involved in?

Interesting questions to ask

  • Who was your first crush? And how did it end?
  • Who was the best friend you ever had? And why did you move away from them for a long time?
  • What is your favorite thing to do in the evening when you’re not working or studying?
  • What effect do you believe it will have upon us?
  • What makes me different from other people?
  • Why did I fail that class?
  • What is the difference between myself and an animal?
  • What can we learn from this situation?
  • What is something that people would be surprised to learn about you?
  • What is the best way to get your point across?
  • What is the most effective way to solve a problem?
  • Why should I be interested in what you are doing?
  • How does this project fit into the overall strategic direction of your company?
  • What aspect of your job do you enjoy the most?
  • Why do you think that others should be interested in your work?
  • What do you believe is the most effective method to learn about a topic?
  • How can I make my ideas more clear and easy for others to understand?
  • How can I improve my presentation skills?
  • What are some of the challenges I will face when trying to make this project successful?
  • How do you feel about being in a group of people?
  • What types of things do you like about your school?
  • What are your thoughts on going to college?
  • What are your thoughts on getting a job after graduation?
  • What are some objectives or desires you hope to realize before you graduate from college?

New relationship questions

  • Are you going to ask her out?
  • Do you need to know if she’s interested in you?
  • Do you want to know if she’s ready for a relationship?
  • Do you want to know if she’s ready for a serious relationship?
  • What is your biggest weakness?
  • What is the most important thing to you?
  • How many times have you had a crush on someone that wasn’t related to you?
  • Have you ever tried marijuana? If so, why?
  • Do you have faith in God? If not, why not? Why?
  • If a guy asked you out, would he be your boyfriend or just a friend with benefits?
  • Have you been in a relationship with someone who rejected you?
  • What’s your favorite thing about me?
  • What makes you the most attracted to me?
  • What do you like to be kissed on?
  • Which area of my body is your favorite?
  • What is it about me that makes you want me?
  • What do you find most attractive about me?
  • Would you like to accompany me on a date tonight again?
  • Will we see each other again if we go our separate ways right now?
  • How long have you known each other?
  • When was the last time you had sex?
  • What was your last sexual encounter like?
  • How long did it last?
  • What made you want to have sex with this person?
  • What made you decide not to have sex with this person?
  • How do you feel about being sexually rejected? How do you feel about being rejected emotionally in general?
  • Would it be okay to have sex with someone who is not in a relationship with their partner?
  • But who feels that they are ready for a change and want to reintroduce dating after being alone for a while?
  • Is there any chance you might try to get back together with your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend after breaking up, even though they’re seeing someone else? 
  • And would you want them to give up their current relationship to move things along faster and allow themselves the opportunity for something more permanent in the future?
  • What would your partner’s life be like without you in it?
  • Do you know a lot about each other’s families and friends?
  • What’s the craziest thing you’ve done together?
  • What is your favorite type of music or movie, and why?
  • What was the best part of last night’s date?
  • Who are some of your favorite authors or artists, and why do they mean so much to you?
  • If money were no object, what would your dream vacation be like for two weeks, where would you go, and why?
  • If I could give up something important from my past, what would it be and why?

Christmas questions

  • What is your favorite Christmas movie?
  • What is your favorite drink to have at Christmas?
  • What would you want it to be if Santa could bring you one present?
  • Have people ever thought you were a prostitute before?
  • Would you rather have a lollipop or a smartphone?
  • Have you ever been in love with someone who did not love you back?
  • Do you think that you will make good kisses?
  • If you were able, would you like to stop aging?
  • If I could only have one friend, who would it be and why?
  • What has been the most embarrassing thing that has ever occurred to you?
  • What one aspect of my personality would I change and why?
  • What is your favorite Christmas gift?
  • What’s the most fun you’ve ever had on Christmas Eve?
  • Do you have a secret Santa tradition?
  • Do you celebrate Christmas Eve with your family?
  • Who was Santa Clause when he was a kid?
  • What’s the best gift you’ve ever gotten for Christmas?
  • What are your favorite presents to receive?
  • Which holiday do you like to celebrate the most?
  • Do you have a favorite food for Christmas dinner?
  • What is your favorite Christmas movie?
  • What’s your favorite holiday song?
  • Why do you like Christmas so much?
  • How long have you been celebrating Christmas?
  • What’s your favorite part of the holidays?
  • What’s your favorite Christmas movie or TV show?
  • As a youngster, did you have faith in Santa Claus? If so, what was his real name, and how old were you when he visited your house?
  • What’s the most sentimental thing you’ve ever owned?
  • If you were to live without one thing, what would it be?
  • What’s your favorite holiday food?
  • What do you like more: Santa Clause or Elves?
  • Do you like Christmas?
  • Do you want to get married at Christmas?
  • Do you believe in Santa Claus?
  • If so, do you have any specific requests for him/her?
  • What do you want for Christmas? (as a gift)
  • Do you like Christmas songs?
  • Are there any places that you would love to visit this Christmas?
  • Where, in your opinion, should you take a honeymoon? 
  • If your parents cannot come home with us at Christmas, what do they need to know in advance so they can start planning their trip home now?
  • What is your favorite holiday food?
  •  What is your favorite holiday drink?
  • If you were Santa Claus, what would you ask for for Christmas? (If you’re not a kid, no worries — we’ll give you an alternative.)
  • How many Christmases do you think you’ve missed being at home with family? 
  • Do you ever wish that one day you could go back to those times and relive them?
  • What are a few of the elements that make Christmas special for you as an adult?
  • Have you ever gone on a date and then had no idea what to say?
  • Have you ever gone on a date and then felt like you were not getting anywhere?
  • Have you ever gone on a date, and then the person asked you to come back another time?
  • Have you ever been on a second date with someone and then gone out with them again?
  • When do you believe the ideal moment to propose to someone is?
  • What is your favorite kind of food to cook for yourself?
  • What animal would you want to keep as a pet if you could?
  • How long do you intend to continue your education before finding employment?

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About the author

Ryan Sanderson (LCSW) Ryan is a game and relationship enthusiast who enjoys all things quizzes, games, fun, love, relationships, and family. He's a licensed social worker and helps families, couples, and children in need. He's spoken about love and relationships on Salon.com, Forbes, and Mirror, to name a few.

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